I believe.

"I am one who does not belive in 'The One'. Why? Because I believe that if there was such a thing, there wouldn't be a need to make compromises right? People who have found their 'Soulmates' wouldn't have to compromise to make a relationship work right?"

Consider the concept of faith in Christianity. You either believe, or you don't. And then there are some, who have had the "fortune" of experiencing and hence "validating" their faith.

That being said, when a Christian tells you he prays to God, to say, pass the University exams, certainly, he can't just kick back, and expect God to deliver the grades to him on a silver platter, eh?

The idea of predestination discomforts many people, including myself, because we think that leaves us to the mercy of god-knows-what is out there, and makes life seem pointless since everything has already been planned and decided for you. But perhaps, the point to it all is the path we CHOOSE to take to reach our respective "predetermined" destinations? Life is a journey, and it is what we learn and make of ourselves on the journey that makes it all worthwhile, or otherwise.

A couple of friends who have had readings taken by fortune tellers have been told that though the lines of fate can't be changed, the human will is just as strong an influence.

Although I wouldn't say I compromised in my recently ended relationship, it wasn't exactly effortless for me either. There were trying times, and I did have to work through things in my head and my heart. Sure, there are better men out there, but staying on had never been a compromise and settling for; I just WANTED him for what he was. Even now, where I am, and understanding that he's not for me, I still won't settle for just anyone who comes along. (OK, maybe just for fun, I would, but that would be like having a snack while waiting for the dinner to start.) If I did settle, it would just be a seeming eternity of effort after effort ad nauseam to keep the relationship going. Good for you if you find someone who is seemingly near to a "best possible" match with your likes and dislikes, but can we ever find all the nooks and crannies that need fitting? How do you know when enough is enough? When it comes to the crunch, what happens? Is your glass half-full or half-empty? It's all about the perspective, isn't it?

I haven't stopped believing.

And I believe I made the right decision: notwithstanding the possibility that really, we may be neither's "the one" or that "the one" may be just my fantasy, the truth remains that he stopped wanting to "compromise" being with me.

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Here's an interesting poem that I got off Valska:

The Scrutiny
by Richard Lovelace (Source)

Why should you swear I am forsworn,
Since thine I vowed to be?
Lady, it is already morn,
And 'twas last night I swore to thee
That fond impossibility.

Have I not loved thee much and long,
A tedious twelve hours' space?
I must all other beauties wrong,
And rob thee of a new embrace,
Could I still dote upon thy face.

Not but all joy in thy brown hair
By others may be found; -
But I must search the black and fair,
Like skilful mineralists that sound
For treasure in unploughed-up ground.

Then if, when I have loved my round,
Thou prov'st the pleasant she,
With spoils of meaner beauties crowned
I laden will return to thee,
Ev'n sated with variety.